Title: Facing the Music (and living to talk about it)
Author: Nick Carter
Publisher: Bird Street Books
My rating: ★★★★✫
As a teenage girl I was a big fan of the Backstreetboys and Nick Carter has always been my favorite. I know, it’s not very original. Anyways, since their album ‘In a world like this’ was released and I saw them live in concert again (for the first time since 1999) I was hooked again. They are still great. So I saw the BSB movie (Show ’em what you’re made of) in the cinema when it was released and recently I have been watching a few episodes of I heart Nick Carter (gosh, I totally love his wife as well, isn’t Lauren Kitt amazing? 😀 Yeah I might be the only fan saying that, but I just think she’s perfect for him!) and I saw that Nick wrote a book. Well I had to get my hands on that one. Okay, enough with the fangirling and on with actually writing a review.
What the book is about
This book is Nick Carter’s autobiography and self-help hybrid in which he chronicles his struggles with a dysfunctional family and the unimaginable rigors of becoming an internationally successful pop-star at the age of 12. From his battle with addiction to serious health complications and the pain of his younger sister’s tragic death, Nick leaves nothing to the imagination and offers true and heartfelt advice to help readers overcome obstacles in their own lives.
What I think about the book
I think the book is more self-help and only a bit of autobiography, because it is mostly focussing on how to fix your mistakes and make life better when you’ve hit rock bottom. I don’t really need a self-help book right now, but I definitely hit rock bottom in the past and there are always things to learn, so I found it quite interesting to read what Nick has done to make himself feel better and be better. My journey was definitely different, but does it really matter if one is binge drinking or binge eating? In the end there is a reason for that, there is something you’re trying to forget about. In both cases you need to learn to take better care of yourself before you can be the best version of yourself that you can be. So yes, in a way his story was similar to mine.
As someone who has gone through something similar I can only say that I agree on most of what Nick is writing. We have to stop playing the victim and we have to really want to change before we can actually make a change. I am not sure if the book will make someone see that fact though. I am in a good place right now, so for me it was something I recognized and agreed with. I can’t say what would happen to someone who is still in a bad place. Will it help? It might, if that person is willing to really work for it.
What I loved was reading about what Nick was thinking about the world, himself and how that has all changed when he started to work for it. That is something I am interested in. I love reading how people who feel depressed at first got better, because it gives you hope. Yes, things can get better. It is also good to read that in the end money isn’t going to help you feel better about yourself. This can happen to anyone. Money can in fact make things worse, as there are many bad things out there that you can buy. Of course it also makes things slightly easier on the way up, but since we need to make the change inside ourselves, I think that it’s not a big part of the story. But even though Nick is a celebrity, it happened to him. And he has found a way to deal with that. I can only respect that he has written this book, despite the consequences or what people may think. I do hope that people are going to see that and that this will make a change somehow. It is super scary to talk about this stuff, because people can be really judgmental.
Should you read this book? I think that depends on what you are expecting from it. If you are interested in how Nick Carter has found his way back to his real self after spending a lot of time in a very dark place: Then yes. If you are a Backstreetboys fangirl and you want to know everything about them? You can read it, but don’t expect the story to be all rainbows and butterflies, because it isn’t. Life can be tough sometimes and there isn’t much we can change about that. We can, however, change the way we deal with it.